Imagine you experienced these things. On each day the alarm went off at the same time. You snoozed for the same ten minutes and did your morning routine. But driving to work was different yesterday, could it be because it was Monday? The sun was shining and the constant glare was irritating. Fellow drivers seemed grumpy. You looked at a few faces to see them scowling back at you. No-one was letting you in at the intersection, and everyone seemed in a bad mood.
Today however, the sun is shining and it’s so uplifting. Everyone seems smiley and cheerful, even letting you in at the busiest point of the road. At the lights, you can see a driver next to you obviously singing along to the same song on the radio, and you acknowledge one another with a friendly smile.
I've been told so many times that everthing you think will eventually go just like the way you think about it. And indeed, it seems everything works that way. But something still bothers me much. Was it really so? So, I tried to look for some corresponding references about this. People, from what I found, generally think that no matter how you think about something or someone, it always reflects yourself. I'll give you one case as an example. Have there ever been times in your life when you met someone and thought : ”Oh My God, he is really boastful (adj : sombong)”? Or maybe, after you talked to someone, you thought : “Damn, he is opinionated (ajd : keras kepala). I’m glad that I’m not like that!”.
I used to think that when we presume a person is arrogant, for example, we actually are successful identifying someone's personality. But I was wrong. Only once I learned more about this did I realize the mistake I had made, the injustice I had inflicted (v : menimbulkan) upon all people whom I've interacted with. You might be asking a question "why"?
The term "perception is projection" should be enough to answer this question. “perception is projection” means that whatever you perceive (v : melihat, bukan secara fisik) to be outside yourself is - on some level - within you. Whatever you don’t like about someone else mirrors some behaviour within yourself, which you are not yet fully aware of. Well, it actually means that we are fully responsible of what we perceive from other people. One of the references said that simply put (adv : secara sederhana), when we recognize others as being arrogant or opinionated or any other charming description, we actually recognize a part of ourselves, otherwise how would we be able to know what it was? So, basically, what we see in others is really ourselves! What I'm not really in step is "how would we be able to know ... ".
From my point of view, this will not always happen. It's very obvious that everyone possess a particular character and behaviour. This can be observed by asking some people to assess a certain person on his personality. Even if it's not always but those people will eventually come to a conclusion that the person is either a good or bad guy. This shows that what we perceive from others does not always end up with our projection because we can't project something which has already been projected.
Another reference said that what others do or how they act is their choice, it is our choice though how we perceive their actions. So, people in our lives will act the way we unconsciously want them to. That means that we get what we focus on! Hence, we project onto others how we want them to act, and once this projection or judgment comes to our conscious attention, it is our projection. This opinion does also not always bring the afore mentioned reality. It's always though to make people act the way want them to because it's againts their will.
As a conclusion, it's true that we don't need to take care about what others do because it's none of our concerns. But what we see in people, according to me, is actually things that they have not we have. That's why, just provide a wide range space for them to act the way they like. You may judge others but you may not project it onto yourself since it might not be in yourself.
Reference : Achievement in Mind, Heart Force
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by Naskar Hansam | Networker
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